Rainbow Ruminations is something I set up because I noticed that there really isn't a lot of blogs about everyday life as an LGBT human. Sure, there are many blogs about political injustices and social reforms. We all know there are many things that need to change in our world and our lives. But what about a blog that details how to get along in every day life as a gay or lesbian? I didn't see one. So, being the unemployed, looking for a job, housewife that I currently am, I thought, what the hay. And for those of you who don't know that idiom, it's the same as "what the hell." My grandmother used to say that, so don't be a grandma-hater. Anyway, let's start this off by me answering some questions that I've heard around the gay unemployment office, e.g. - my house. Some of these come from family, some from friends, but most from my imagination.
1. Why does everyone always assume that because my (sister/brother/mother/father/cousin/etc/etc) is gay, I know everything there is about the subject?
RR answer: Well, because we all know that if you are a doctor or a relative of a doctor, you know everything there is to know about every malady, problem, experience and how to fix it. Deliberate sarcasm intended. The point is, it's not just a problem with LGBT families. Many people experience this kind of frustration. I am the daughter of a First Southern Baptist preacher and people used to assume I could hear their confessions and know the bible inside out and backwards. Uh, yeah, right. One, I'm a lesbian and I was living in a world as unknown to me as you would be if you were trying to live in a fish tank with a giant octopus. There are tons of suckers, a big beak thing, and noise is deceiving. I know that's a reference most of you won't get. It's ok. I'm used to that. Two, confessing is a Catholic thing. Hello! FSB's are NOT Catholic. 'nuff said.
2. You must make tons of money, because you have two incomes and no children. Being gay must be great.
RR answer: I just want to laugh, cry, scream, howl, and generally shake the person until they get a clue. (not really, just figuratively, honest.) Being gay (or homosexual if you prefer) doesn't automatically make you money, that is unless you're famous already. Then you can come out and still continue to make tons of money. I'm unemployed, just like millions of others. My wife has the only income besides my unemployment, just like millions of others. We live paycheck to paycheck, say it with me folks, just like millions of others. Are you starting to see a pattern here? We are just like millions of other Americans struggling with everything. We have kids, we have mortgages, rent, bills, laughs, hugs, sorrow, bitterness and just about every other emotion millions of others have. I'm not different in that way. So don't assume just because we are gay, we are rich or poor or otherwise. Just remember that we are just like millions of others. What a concept. 'nuff said.
Ok, so there are a few questions answered. Just a few notes from here. I've been around a lot. I've seen more things than I cared to in my life so far and I tried to learn as much from my mother and grandmother as I possibly could. I've made more mistakes than a flunky of the spelling bee. I've also made some pretty good decisions that have turned my life around. I'm just like millions of others in this country and I've decided to cast my voice to stars. Don't know how high it'll reach, but hey, at least I tried. Don't forget to kiss your loved one. They deserve it.
Signing off for now (sofn)
RR
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